This week I would like to talk about the freeing feeling you get when you can let go and forgive. Whether it is forgiving yourself or someone else, you are not doing it for them, you are doing it for your benefit. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting; it means healing the anger and hurt you are holding inside. If and when you can do that it will weigh less on your mental health.
To forgive is not always easy; it can be a lengthy process. The main trouble people run into who would like to let go of their anger and forgive are uncertain with how to proceed. It is difficult to forgive someone who has done you wrong, but, if you think about it from another perspective, forgiveness is a part of your emotional welfare. If you can remove or even lessen the hurt/anger the less stress and more happiness you will have.
These past few months I have been working on forgiving a friend of the family, not for their benefit or reconciliation but my mental health. It has taken time and with the help of a therapist, but I am in a place where it no longer takes up space in my mind and heart.
These two steps have helped me live more at the moment and not looking back and wondering what could have happened differently to avoid the conflict.
The first thing I did was write down the interaction and what I felt as a result in a notebook. As I was writing it down, I could feel the emotions that I felt during the original conversation. Then came the part that I had the most difficulty with, sit in front of a mirror and read what I wrote out loud to myself. Doing this it made it feel like I was saying it to the one that hurt me. Over time the hurt and anger lessened to a point where I could move on. I did this for myself and am happier because of that. Mind you, and it did not happen overnight; it took time and work but was worth it.
In the end, it is your decision and personal process. I hope this helps.
Until next time!